Thursday, August 7, 2008

Goodbye Vacation, Goodbye Friends

Do you hear that? That faint sound of wailing in the distance? Don't worry, it's just me. I'm lamenting the end of our short vacation time and re-entry to the real world.

We came back from the beach on Tuesday and have been going non-stop ever since. My mom and aunt traveled in yesterday to celebrate my birthday with us. We had fun with them and then we headed to meet some friends for a night of bowling and birthday cake! We had fun with that and as we were leaving, I kept feeling like I wasn't ready to leave. I'm not a great bowler so it wasn't that I wanted to go another round. It was something stronger that was tugging at my heart.

One of the families that we love so much are moving to Texas. We thought this would be our last gathering with them (I think we will try to squeeze in another.) This is another of my sweet Coffee Girls moving away and I'm just not ready. I'm protesting this move. I'm throwing a simultaneous pity party and tantrum show down...wanna come? I just said goodbye to one who is almost on her way to Japan. I just don't want to do this. It's so hard saying goodbye to people that I love so dearly.

Dang it 30's, what have you done to me? I used to be so good at this. We'd say goodbye to friends when one or the other of us was moving and I'd never cry. I'm just not a sappy kind of girl. I'd keep a stiff upper lip and promise to stay in touch and remain BFF's forever all the while looking forward to our next adventure. This time is so, so different. This time I mean it. I do want to stay in touch and be BFF's forever. I don't want their kids to grow up without me there to see what amazing people they will become.

My kids are even sad about this. Two weeks ago when we were over saying goodbye to Kim, who is moving to Japan, Brother walked in to chat with one of the movers loading her furniture. He sweetly asked if he could just move her stuff to the house next to ours. That way, we could be close to her forever.

On the way from visiting with them again today, Sister saw my tears and said, "Mom, when Miss Kim left you were crying and today you are crying again. You are really going to miss your friends, right?" I couldn't even answer her. The truth is that I will miss them more than I even realize.

I love these girls. Love them. I love their kids. I even got to witness the birth of one of them. I love that my kids love them and feel loved by them. I love that all of our husbands love each other. That's a lot of love, ya'll.

Today, I just love. I love and I ache. I really believe that we will be friends with these families forever. But it still hurts to say goodbye, knowing that they are no longer a cup of coffee away.


  1. My Precious Coffee Girl
    I promise to always only be a virtual cup of coffee away. You have brought tears to my eyes - not that that is hard with 3 days left in the states.
    I am terribly busy but made sure I took time out to read your blog. I want to be BFF as well and we will. It will take work long distance but you are so WORTH IT
    love ya

  2. aww this is so sad! Moving sucks... but it's so easy to keep in touch these days with all the technology & everything! I hope you stay BFF's!

  3. Happy Birthday! I hope this year is full of joy and laughter for you! Have a great week! H

  4. Goodbyes are the hardest. And I, too, know it gets harder as we get older!
    Why is that I wonder??

  5. This seems to be going on a lot lately around the blogosphere. Thankfully I have yet to experience it. Although the way my husband's job is, I fear it would be us moving, not the other way around.

    I am sorry that your friends are moving away but it is easier to stay in touch these days than ever before and I hope you can keep up the frienships no matter what! Sounds like you can... ; )

  6. Awww!! Girlfriends are so wonderful....and saying goodbye to them AND vacation has got to be so heart-breaking!!

  7. Sorry you have to say goodbye to so many such great friends. It just isn't fair is it?

  8. Hey - listen to me, you are a GREAT long distance BFF! I love you, I know it's hard to lose such great friends, especially since I know how much you miss the person you left at the last base.. ;)

  9. I feel for you. My BFF just moved last weekend from here in England to Utah. We've been friends for 10 years our kids are the same ages. Sucks!

    I cried.

    I so feel your pain.

  10. Oh I am sooo sorry that your friend is moving. good byes totally stick!! Happy POW!

  11. Darn it, Heather!!! I know just how you feel. My heart broke when we left Vermont. And you know, it kinda keeps breaking a bit every day that I miss out on sharing life with my friend Tarrah and her family.

    It really is deeply heartbreaking.

    I just bought a ticket to go visit Tarrah in September, and we are driving over there for Thanksgiving. So, though it will never be the same, we will remain friends forever. It just will take a bit more effort. And I hope the same for you and Kim and the other coffee girls.