Thursday, January 29, 2009

Hang On Tight

There has been a lot of talk of friendship around our house lately.

Brother is always extremely interested in whether or not Sister considers him her friend. More times than not, the answer is yes but that can change quickly depending on his willingness to follow her every command.

When they are being friendly with one another, they are always eager to point it out to me. So, it came as no surprise a few days ago when we were driving down the road and Brother said, "Look, Mom! We're being friends!"

I looked in the rear view mirror and sure enough, they were holding hands and the grin on Brother's face was unmistakable.

Before I could comment, Sister piped up.

"Actually, it's not so much that we're friends, Brother. It's just that you won't let go of me."

It's all about perspective, baby.

It occurred to me that really, isn't that what makes a friendship solid? You hang on tight and you refuse to let go. You hold on to your beloved friends when life gets so busy that you forget to call each other for weeks. When one of you is grieving the loss of a child or a parent, you hold on for dear life and no matter how long this journey through immense pain takes, you never let go. When PMS is running rampant and she snaps at you for being late to lunch, you hold on because you know what it's like to be emotional and crampy. When she calls and tells you that her marriage is over, you cry with her and intertwine your fingers tightly with hers, assuring her that she will make it through this.

The bond that holds real friends together is often shared, two people putting in effort to grow a solid relationship. But sometimes, that bond becomes the strongest when one person loosens their grasp and the other holds on even tighter, refusing to let go.


  1. Beautiful post! I have actually been thinking a lot about friendships lately, and what makes some last through the years, while others fizzle out. Where would we be without those wonderful, solid friendships?

  2. Friendship is interesting. What makes some easy and some so much work?

  3. Friendship is always a curious thing. I love the post! Well said!

  4. miss you friend! I am glad we are both hanging on even though we have not chatted in a while. I cried while washing dishes the other night (oops cat is out of the bag my honey didn't even know)because I really miss/need my girlfriends! Oh for just one night at starbucks (as long as we all stayed out so late our husbands wondered where we were)

  5. What a great post. I've been thinking about friendship this weekend and I have a really tight, wonderful circle of friends. It's the best!!

  6. I just gave you an award on my blog!

  7. This is a powerful post that came at the exact perfect moment. Even TIME and DISTANCE cannot erase a love of a friendship that has MEANING. Your analogy of the 2 hands... it makes me happy to know that I have these hands out there... who, for every reason, "won't let go." Thank God...

  8. Great post! Too cute about the kids holding hands!

  9. catching up here, but this made me cry!!!!!!!!